From Single to Couple
Dating & Relationship Advice/Coaching
Relationship Coach FAQs
Hi, I am Mila Smith - certified Dating & Relationship Coach.
“Love and work… work and love, that’s all there is,” said Freud.
If love is where you're struggling, you're not alone - and you don’t have to stay stuck. Let’s find a way forward!
With over 20 years of experience in relationship management and a science-backed approach, I help men and women break unhealthy patterns, attract the right partner and build a happy, lasting relationship.
On this page, you’ll find answers to the most frequently asked questions about my private 1:1 dating and relationship coaching. Short on time? Click here for the essentials.
WHAT DOES A RELATIONSHIP COACH DO?
Most importantly, what can I do for you?
We turn to career coaches for job advice; financial advisors to manage our money; attend parenting classes; hire fitness and business coaches... Yet, when it comes to choosing a life partner - one of the most critical decisions for our future - we often leave it to chance...
That's why I am here to help you avoid the pitfalls and find lasting happiness. Working with me you can:
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detach from your emotional baggage and feel excited about love again…
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boost your confidence and bring out the best version of you...
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learn to identify relationship red flags and incompatible people...
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discover how to find your ideal partner, nurture a new relationship…
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and much more...
If you’re planning to run a marathon, what do you do? You arrange training with a qualified coach even though, technically, you're capable of running. You can enlist the same kind of help when it comes to dating and relationships!
I’ve seen many people stumble in the dark through heartbreak, divorce, and the confusion of modern dating. I used to be one of those people, so I know how powerful independent, qualified relationship advice can be...
So, do you really want to do it right this time round?
IS THERE A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A DATING AND A RELATIONSHIP COACH?
I cover both areas, yet I prefer the latter title because “relationship” is a much broader term. It includes the most important relationship you will encounter in your lifetime: your relationship with yourself. Once you've mastered it, everything else will fall into place, including your love life and relationships.
Dating is only one of the components of relationship coaching albeit a very important one, so should be seen as part of relationship coaching.
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A RELATIONSHIP COACH AND A THERAPIST?
Both coaching and therapy use ongoing one-to-one confidential interactions; both work with clients who want to change and/or achieve something. However, therapy tends to focus more on overcoming past trauma and issues; understanding how you came to be the way you are.
A relationship coach identifies current problematic behaviours or situations, but tends to focus on goals, actions and results. While psychology explains human mind and behaviour, coaching offers you practical strategies to overcome challenges.
Nevertheless, my methods are strictly science and research based: no pseudo-science or crystal ball gazing, no false claims.
Important note: marriage counselling or couples therapy is a specific area of therapy - I don't work with couples.
WHEN IS THE BEST TIME TO WORK ON A RELATIONSHIP ?
The best time to work on a relationship is before it begins. This is what I mean by that...
People tend to fall into relationships blinded by passion, marry or have children before really getting to know their partner... then often discover they aren't well suited - and the struggle begins.
Think of Cinderella’s glass slipper: if it doesn’t fit, it's next to impossible to make it work. Sadly, that's when many people find their relationship is falling apart.
Can couples overcome challenges and stay together? Yes - but only if both partners choose to do the work. If betrayal is involved, partners often fail to regain trust in their relationship, and it deteriorates beyond repair.
If you're single - in fact, you're in a powerful, advantageous position. Use the opportunity to start with a clean slate, attract your ideal partner and build a great relationship. Want to know how?
WHY HIRE A RELATIONSHIP COACH?
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You're separated or divorced. Whether it was a welcome change or a shock, you're at the mercy of mixed emotions ranging from grief to excitement. Life doesn’t stop at 40, 50 or 60! No matter how unsettled you're feeling right now, rest assured we can work through any emotional baggage and even reinvent yourself in the process...
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You're a single parent: you had your fingers burned in the past, you're juggling work, family and a very fragile relationship with your ex. You want to be happy again but are terrified of upsetting the balance and have no idea how to approach dating...
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You've never been in a relationship. Perhaps, you were too focused on your career or lacking confidence, and now it feels like everyone around you has settled down. You're feeling left out, looking at happy couples and wondering if you've missed the trick...
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You're stuck on the hamster wheel of dating... wondering why it’s not working out for you. Does it seem as though you only attract the wrong people, and the ones you like aren't interested in you?
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You’re in a relationship, but you keep questioning if it’s truly right for you. Are those genuine red flags you're seeing in your partner… or could it be just your unrealistic expectations getting in the way?
If any of this sounds familiar, I’ve got great news: I can help you transform your life! Given my vast experience working with people from all walks of life and various cultural backgrounds, you can always count on empathy, understanding and meaningful insights.
DOES RELATIONSHIP COACHING WORK?
It works 100% if you have an open mind and are prepared to re-examine your approach. It's not likely to work, if you think you already know everything and refuse to step outside your comfort zone.
There’s a lot of conflicting advice out there, but you can be confident in my skills and expertise as I’ve been trained by one of the world’s most trusted relationship experts. Our science based relationship and dating coaching methods are built on a ground-breaking 30-year study of love and relationships. It offers proven practical strategies to find and keep healthy relationships.
What would you give to be in a happy, secure relationship which, for once, doesn’t feel like pulling teeth or walking on eggshells?
HOW MUCH DOES A RELATIONSHIP COACH CHARGE?
You can spend months trawling the internet for relationship advice and dating strategies. You can try to apply the findings to your situation, which may or may not work. Or, you can make a relatively small investment, which pales into insignificance compared to the rewards of a loving, healthy relationship.
Let's arrange a free confidential introductory session and discuss how we can work together.
I tailor my quotes based on an assessment of your needs, so I can recommend the right programme length and ensure it truly supports your goals. Take charge of your love life and get in touch today!
WHAT IF 1:1 COACHING IS NOT FOR YOU?
You’re still fed up with fake dating profiles and meeting unsuitable or unavailable people; you still want solutions and a great relationship…
"From Single to Couple" dating success framework is a step-by-step dating and relationship advice video guide created by my husband and me to offer everyone a super affordable alternative.
It's more generic than 1:1 coaching, but gives you a unique advantage sharing both male and female insights at the same time. Being a couple is our secret weapon!
Get all 15 video sessions and watch or listen at your pace from the comfort of your home or while commuting…
So, are you ready to stop stumbling in the dark, unveil the best strategies and a shortcut to happiness for the rest of your life?
FREE RESOURCES
You’ll find snippets of helpful dating and relationship advice if you follow us on Facebook and Instagram: this is our “Love and Relationship A-Z” series.
Alternatively, go directly to our Blog page.
Best wishes,
Mila x
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CM12 9LR, United Kingdom