From Single to Couple
Dating & Relationship Advice/Coaching
Relationship & Dating
Advice for Women
From UK Expert Dating Coach
Love doesn’t come with a manual, but you don’t have to figure it out alone!
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Are you tired of terrible dates, heartbreak or feeling lonely?
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Does it feel as though you keep attracting the wrong men, while the ones you like don’t reciprocate?
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Do you often worry something might be “wrong” with you, wondering why your relationships keep stalling or falling apart despite your best efforts?
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Hi! I am Mila Smith - certified Relationship & Dating Coach.
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With 25+ years of experience in relationship management and a science-backed approach, I help amazing women like you break unhealthy patterns, find love that feels like home and build a happy relationship in which you truly thrive...
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...I, too, used to feel disillusioned, but now I know it’s not just possible - it’s within reach.
Featured in the Daily Mail, The Mirror, HELLO!, Yahoo, BBC The Late Show, Newsweek and many other outlets. Click to see my media coverage.​​​
Whether you're 25 or 50, single, divorced, separated or struggling with your relationship, I can guide you to happiness every step of the way.
HOW TO BE BETTER AT DATING AS A WOMAN
You might be tired of hearing this, but it really starts with you. If you constantly question whether you’re too much or not enough, self-acceptance is the first hurdle to overcome.
You are who you are, and that’s great! If there's something you’re unhappy with and genuinely want to change in your life, take responsibility and set realistic, achievable goals. One tiny step at a time.
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Expecting a man to fix all your issues doesn’t work. Men enjoy feeling needed and wanted but not being responsible for someone else’s happiness. They can sense a woman who entirely relies on them for fulfilment from a mile away, and will steer clear.
Worse, that mindset can attract the wrong kind of man: someone who exploits insecurity to manipulate people.
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So, the right mindset comes first. Makeup, clothes and even wit - later. Relationships are like mirrors: they reveal where we still have work to do.
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Look honestly at your patterns:
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If you tend to stay quiet and accept things you shouldn’t - challenge yourself to do the opposite.
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If you have unrealistic expectations of men and give up too quickly, practice patience and learn to listen.
Growth happens when you break the cycle, and that’s how real confidence, and true power in dating, is built.
HOW DO I GET A MAN TO COMMIT - AND HOW DO I FIND A HUSBAND?
We live in a time when there’s no single “right” way to have a relationship. We’re free to do what we want without fear of judgement. However, if your goal is a committed relationship / marriage, your approach must be intentional: hope alone is not a strategy.
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Ask yourself what marriage means to you. Is it status, family, emotional or financial stability, a fairytale wedding? Knowing your specific needs makes it easier to find the right partner.
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Understand male psychology. Men and women are wired differently - fact. Men think, feel and process experiences differently, so stop expecting their emotional responses to mirror your own. Understanding this saves frustration.
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Focus on men open to commitment. Be upfront about your desire for a serious relationship instead of pretending to “go with the flow.” Never assume their intentions. Chasing someone who is unable to commit and hoping to convert them is a fast track to heartache. You can't win someone's love or trick them into committing - it won't last and your relationship won't be a happy one.
Finally, you need to know your value: what you bring to a potential marriage. Happy, lasting partnerships rarely happen by chance. Love may appear chaotic, but it’s not random.
I can help you recognise the secret laws of love, so dating feels less like guesswork and more like a path to attracting what you truly want.
DATING ADVICE FOR NEWLY DIVORCED WOMEN
First, let’s agree divorce is not a failure. While we idealise lifelong marriage, it wasn't always the human default. Thankfully, we now have the freedom to leave relationships that aren’t sustainable.
“Am I ready for a relationship?” - is this the question on your mind? Dating after divorce is not about a strict timeline. There are many myths about how soon you should start dating. The truth is, according to research, there’s no prescribed amount of time you have to wait. It’s individual and depends on your situation.
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If you spent years in a “dead” relationship, you may already be emotionally prepared to move on. If your relationship ended abruptly, you’ll need more time to process and heal. Longevity guidelines don’t apply here, but this self-assessment will help.
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5 signs you’re ready to date after divorce:
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You no longer feel much towards your ex.
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You can see your past objectively.
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You can identify your new relationship goals.
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You are ready to trust someone.
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You’re ready to care about someone.
Please click below to read my full article Dating After Divorce: Are You Ready?​​
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FIRST DATE TIPS FOR WOMEN
Human brains are hardwired to make snap judgments. Cognitive biases play a powerful role in shaping our perceptions of others, and how others perceive us.
The primacy effect, as psychologists call it, causes people to remember the first piece of information they encounter better than what comes afterwards.
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In other words: first impressions tend to stick, even in the face of conflicting evidence. That’s why first dates really matter, so it's ok to plan ahead.
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Yes, men are more visually driven. Evolution has shaped them to notice attractiveness because of fertility cues conveyed by a woman’s physical appearance. It’s not their fault, and it doesn’t mean they’re shallow.
Most men are realists, not slaves to instinct. So, it’s not about chasing impossible beauty standards; it’s about showcasing your best assets and taking pride in yourself. Positivity and confidence are key.
Discover 10 proven science-based first date tips for women of all ages:
Dating apps have opened up a new context in how we relate to each other with technology changing suddenly and quickly.
The good news? These platforms are just a shell - a vehicle for creating real human connections. Dating apps are there for introductions. In fact, that’s exactly what they are: introduction apps.
Your number one priority should be to get off the app, start a real conversation and meet in person as soon as possible. Only then can the process begin. Don’t be fooled into imagining a knight in shining armour just from a dating profile and a few messages.
How do you use the apps to your advantage? Always lead with:
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A clear, recent headshot: look into the camera to create connection, position it at eye level and smile. Positivity is one of the most attractive qualities. Never hide behind filters or digitally enhanced photos - men often cite misrepresentation as the biggest turn-off in dating.
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Authenticity: put your best foot forward, but stay true to yourself. Pretending to be someone you’re not only leads to disappointment.
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Connection: when writing your profile, imagine you’re speaking directly to the man of your dreams. You need a balance between showcasing your qualities and expressing what you need from a partner. Be clear, don’t reveal everything at once or get lost in too many details - leaving a touch of mystery is intriguing.
Do you need a personalised strategy?
ONLINE DATING ADVICE FOR WOMEN
NEW RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FOR LADIES
You’ve met a great guy - amazing! However, a new relationship is still fragile: this is the exploratory phase. ​A few dating tips for new relationships:
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Time is your best ally. You can’t truly know someone after just a few dates. Let them reveal themselves, at their best and their worst. Only after your first disagreement can you confidently say you’re in love. Choose yourself first and see how they fit into your life.
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Don’t mistake chemistry for long-term compatibility. Be aware, as soon as you start having sex, hormones like dopamine and oxytocin will flood your brain after intimacy, accelerating attachment and often giving you rose-tinted glasses that make you overlook red flags.
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Don’t chase the initial intensity. Most relationships start with excitement and passion, but men can’t maintain that level of intensity forever. Do you get the sinking feeling when the pace slows down, and they stop replying to texts or calling every day?
Most women start chasing, which is the worst thing you can do and will only push them away. Simply ask them to discuss expectations - and accept their answer even if it's not what you want to hear.
If they don’t come back to you, they weren’t right for you to begin with - and that's fine. That's why it's so important to pace yourself. Don’t rush or build castles in the sky prematurely.
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Learn from past patterns. Do you tend to overinvest too soon or sabotage new relationships out of fear they’ll leave? Avoid falling into old traps. Why not start by taking my free online assessment to identify your challenges:
DATING ADVICE FOR WOMEN OVER 50
Statistically, many women find their 50s, 60s and beyond to be the happiest time of their lives!
Sure, there might be a few more wrinkles, and the gym isn’t quite as forgiving, but most are at peace with who they are, confident, financially secure, armed with decades of life experience. And the kids are (almost) independent.
Everything is relative. Age matters less when you feel great - and when you feel great, you look great!
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What really counts now is understanding your values, needs and relationship goals. Whether you choose to date online or meet people organically, clarity is key: look at your past objectively and understand what worked and what didn't. Be honest about what you want and set realistic expectations.
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Have no doubt, you can find the best relationship of your life after 50! Chemistry matters, but shared values and compatibility matter more in the long run. Showcase your best qualities: confidence and self-acceptance.
Would you like to know how?
WHAT IS THE 3-6-9 AND 5-5-5 RULE IN RELATIONSHIPS AND DATING –
AND SHOULD YOU CARE?
“3-6-9” (months) usually refers to different stages of a new relationship and “5-5-5”… Well, the internet can’t even agree on that one since there are different interpretations.
I have a much better question for you: why are you worried about this? There’s a new "sensational" TikTok or Reddit trend every week, and very little of it is grounded in real science or research.
The media loves all these trends and rules - such gimmicks are crafted mainly to grab attention and generate clicks.
Relationships are complex, many individual factors come into play, so you simply can’t put yourself under pressure over following all these rules.
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Unrealistic expectations only lead to frustration, disappointment and dejection.
I can help you focus on what really matters. There’s a lot of noise out there, but real, quality dating and relationship advice for women is hard to find. So…
SCIENCE BASED DATING & RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FOR WOMEN
Love is not luck. You don’t need luck to find love and build a happy relationship. What you need is a clear, practical, evidence-based approach.
My proven dating and relationship coaching method will help you find and keep love no matter how many times you failed – because it’s built on a revolutionary 30-year study of love, relationships and breakups.
Become an insider and work with me to:
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let go of your emotional baggage and self-sabotage,​​
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bring out the best version of you,​​
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learn to recognise red flags and avoid the pitfalls,
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discover how to attract a great match,
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find out what drives men instead of guessing,
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learn how to nurture a new relationship and a lot more…
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waste your time,
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get generic advice you could have Googled,
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feel judged or get bored!
WHY CHOOSE ME AS YOUR RELATIONSHIP & DATING COACH?
With 25+ years of experience in relationship management and a science-backed approach, I help women of any age break unhealthy patterns, attract the right partner and build a remarkable relationship.
I’ve been featured in the Daily Mail, The Mirror, HELLO!, Yahoo, BBC The Late Show, Newsweek and many other outlets. Click to check out my media coverage.
Through my work with women from varied cultures and life experiences, I bring empathy, understanding and actionable insights.
And I'm always on your side - even when you're making a mistake (but be certain, I'll tell you if you are).
Finally, would you trust:
a) a driving instructor who'd never passed a test?
b) a doctor who'd never been to medical school?
c) a relationship and dating coach who's single?
d) none of the above
Surely the answer is "d"!
I'd made so many mistakes in the past - and for a long time, my love life was a complete mess... Until I discovered the formula of relationship success, then everything changed - and now I’m married to an amazing man.
We all make mistakes because we’re human.... Like I said, love doesn’t come with a manual. That’s why I’m here to support you.
Are you ready to stop chasing and find love that feels like home?
It’s ok to get help. If you're planning to run a marathon, you arrange training with a qualified coach even though, technically, you're capable of running.
Dating and relationship choices can be life-changing, therefore expert advice is even more vital. Book your free, no obligation, confidential discovery call today.
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