From Single to Couple
Dating & Relationship Advice/Coaching
Relationship & Dating
Advice for Men
From UK Expert Dating Coach
Love doesn't come with a manual, but I can help you unlock the secrets to success...
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Are you tired of bad dates, rocky relationships or being on your own?
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Does it feel as though you attract women who aren’t right for you, while the ones you like aren't interested?
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Do you finally want to stop wasting your time and efforts and start dating with clarity and confidence?
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Hi! I am Mila Smith - certified Relationship & Dating Coach.
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With 25+ years of experience in relationship management and a science-backed approach, I help men break unhealthy patterns, attract the right partner and build a remarkable relationship.
Featured in the Daily Mail, The Mirror, HELLO!, Yahoo, BBC The Late Show, Newsweek and many other outlets. Click to see my media coverage.​​​
​​​Whether you're 25 or 50, single, divorced, separated, just stepping into the dating world or struggling with your relationship, I can guide you every step of the way.
WHY IS DATING SO HARD FOR MEN –
AND HOW TO MAKE IT EASIER
Men and women are wired differently: fact. Evolutionary theory offers a genetic and biological explanation: the way we evolved to survive has shaped different priorities, needs and communication styles which, at times, clash.
Add to that constantly shifting gender roles and expectations. With conflicting messages about masculinity and femininity, it’s no wonder many men feel overwhelmed, baffled and under attack!
Quite a mix, isn’t it? The truth is: our differences are a strength because they can create attraction, balance and harmony. My mission is to help you achieve exactly that.
The first step is understanding yourself: your emotional baggage, relationship patterns, your values, needs and boundaries in a relationship.
The second important step is understanding women. Women don’t defy logic - you just need to recognise female logic.
Love may appear chaotic, but it is rarely random. Once you've learned to identify the hidden patterns, you can strategically leverage them in your favour.
WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?
Is this question keeping you awake at night? Let’s be clear: a relationship doesn't define your worth. You don’t need a girlfriend / wife simply to fill a gap or meet an expectation.
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That said, a truly happy relationship with the right woman will enhance every area of your life.
So, what is really going on?
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Maybe your confidence took a hit - or never fully developed - as a result, dealing with women feels harder than it should.
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Perhaps, you burned your fingers in the past and no longer trust yourself to choose well.
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Or you might fall in love quickly, only to lose interest just as fast, retreating into your shell before things get real.
Whatever the reason, you’re not stuck forever. It’s not an instant fix, but together, we can identify what’s keeping you in limbo and address it - improving your results.
WHAT WOMEN WANT IN A MAN
Many of my male clients ask: “What do women really want?”
Whilst some aspects are individual and depend on their circumstances, studies consistently highlight these sought-after qualities, across various cultures and demographics:
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kindness and a caring nature,
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competence (ability of some kind),
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generosity (with time, attention, emotional support, not just material resources)
Typically, these attributes rank above physical appearance for the majority of women. Evolutionary psychology provides an explanation: such traits signal stability and support - qualities vital for survival of their offspring and long-term partnership.
Our brains tend to follow this ancient instinct even if children aren’t part of the plan. So, gentlemen, it’s time to stop worrying about a receding hairline or a shorter stature. Most women will overlook these things if you treat them well and make them feel special.
However, women possess a great attention to detail, especially when it comes to presentation. This leads us to the next topic...
FIRST DATE ADVICE FOR MEN
Human brains are hardwired to make snap judgments. Cognitive biases - like confirmation bias and beauty bias - play a powerful role in shaping our perceptions of others, and how others perceive us.
The primacy effect, as psychologists call it, causes people to remember the first piece of information they encounter better than what comes afterwards.
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In other words: first impressions tend to stick, even in the face of conflicting evidence. That’s why first dates and first impressions really matter, so try to put your best foot forward.
Discover 10 proven science-based first date tips for men of all ages:
ONLINE DATING ADVICE FOR MEN
Dating apps have opened up a new context in how we relate to each other, influenced by technology, which changes suddenly and quickly.
The good news? These platforms are just a shell - a vehicle for creating real human connections. Don’t get distracted by innovation, filters or the latest shiny app.
Dating apps are there for introductions. In fact, that’s exactly what they are: introduction apps. Your number one priority should be to get off the app, start a real conversation and meet in person as soon as possible. Only then can the process begin.
How do you use the apps to your advantage? Always lead with:
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A clear, recent headshot: ensure there is nothing weird in the background, look into the camera to create connection, position it at eye level and smile. Positivity is one of the most attractive qualities.
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Authenticity: put your best foot forward, but stay true to yourself. Pretending to be someone you’re not only leads to disappointment.
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Connection: when writing your profile, imagine you’re speaking directly to the woman of your dreams. Be clear and detailed; avoid clichés and cheesy lines.
Do you need a personalised strategy?
DATING ADVICE FOR SHY GUYS
Being shy is not a crime! Not everyone is a confident, outgoing extrovert, and guess what? Not all women are looking for one. Or an "alpha male".
The real questions to consider are:
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Is there an underlying reason for your shyness, such as low self-esteem, self-sabotaging beliefs or heavy emotional baggage? In which case, the cause must be addressed, not just the symptoms.
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How do you show up: what impression do you give to strangers? Sometimes, shyness can be mistaken for being aloof, stuck-up or uninterested.
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Is it preventing you from meeting new people and forming meaningful connections? Have you actually tried or just assumed it's not going to work?
If so, some work might be needed - but you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Why not start with my free online dating barriers assessment, designed to help you pinpoint unhelpful patterns and gain clarity.
DATING ADVICE FOR OLDER MEN
Everything is relative. In fact, many people find their 50s, 60s and beyond to be the happiest time of their lives!
Sure, there might be a few more wrinkles, and the gym isn’t quite as forgiving, but most are at peace with who they are, confident, financially secure and armed with decades of life experience.
The upside: women are often more open to dating older men. Research across more than 30 cultures shows that, universally, women tend to prefer men who are older than they are.
What really matters at this stage is understanding your values, needs and relationship goals. Whether you pursue online dating or meet people organically, clarity is key: be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for and set realistic expectations.
Would you like to know how?
WHAT IS THE 3-6-9 AND 5-5-5 RULE IN RELATIONSHIPS AND DATING –
AND SHOULD YOU CARE?
“3-6-9” (months) usually refers to different stages of a new relationship and “5-5-5”… Well, the internet can’t even agree on that one since there are different interpretations.
I have a much better question for you: why are you worried about this? There’s a new "sensational" TikTok or Reddit trend every week, and very little of it is grounded in real science or research.
The media loves all these trends and rules - such gimmicks are crafted mainly to grab attention and generate clicks.
Relationships are complex, many individual factors come into play, so you simply can’t put yourself under pressure over following all these rules.
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Unrealistic expectations only lead to frustration, disappointment and dejection.
I can help you focus on what really matters. There’s a lot of noise out there, but real, quality dating and relationship advice for men is as rare as hen’s teeth. So…
SCIENCE BASED DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FOR MEN
Love is not luck. You don’t need luck to find love and build a happy relationship. What you need is a clear, practical, evidence-based approach.
My proven dating and relationship coaching method will help you find and keep love no matter how many times you failed – because it’s built on a revolutionary 30-year study of love, relationships and breakups.
Become an insider and work with me to:
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move forward and let go of your emotional baggage,​​
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challenge your self-sabotaging beliefs and bring out the best version of you,​​
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learn to recognise red flags and avoid the pitfalls,
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discover how to attract a great match,
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find out what drives women instead of guessing,
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learn how to nurture a new relationship and a lot more…
...And rest assured, you will not:
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encounter any pseudo-science,
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waste your time,
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feel judged or get bored during our sessions!
WHY CHOOSE ME AS YOUR RELATIONSHIP & DATING COACH?
With 25+ years of experience in relationship management and a science-backed approach, I help men of any age break unhealthy patterns, attract the right partner and build a remarkable relationship.
I’ve been featured in the Daily Mail, The Mirror, HELLO!, Yahoo, BBC The Late Show, Newsweek and many other outlets. Click to check out my media coverage.
Through extensive work with people from varied cultures and life experiences, I offer empathy, understanding and meaningful insights.
And I'm always on your side - even when you're making a mistake (but be certain, I'll tell you if you are).
Finally, would you trust:
a) a driving instructor who'd never passed a test?
b) a doctor who'd never been to medical school?
c) a relationship and dating coach who's single?
d) none of the above
Surely the answer is "d"!
I'd made mistakes in the past until I discovered the formula of relationship success... then everything changed, and now I’m married to an amazing man.
We all make mistakes because we’re human.... Like I said, love doesn’t come with a manual. That’s why I’m here to support you.
Are you ready to stop chasing, drop the performance and find real acceptance?
It’s ok to get help. If you're planning to run a marathon, you arrange training with a qualified coach even though, technically, you're capable of running.
Dating and relationship choices can be life-changing, therefore expert advice is even more vital. Book your free, no obligation, confidential discovery call today.
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