Benefits of Relationship & Dating Coaching for Men and Women

“I Paid Thousands for a Dating Coach - Now I’m Engaged”: Inside the Rise of High-Investment Dating...

This headline caught my attention. The article explores how an Australian entrepreneur went viral after revealing she spent $10,000 on a dating coach to enhance her love life.

“Many single women are spending months (if not years) navigating the dating scene, but she was able to attract the partner she wanted in a short space of time. […] Signs say that more women may want to adopt a strategic approach to dating with the help of a dating coach,"

- writes K. Salle on Refinery29...

This highlights something many professionals are beginning to realise: a science-backed approach and strategy matter, even in our personal lives.

Research proves healthy loving relationships do make you a healthier person in every way and enhance your life. Not to mention the fact, a positive relationship is a real stress-buster as you have a supportive partner by your side, sharing troubles and success together.

On the other hand, studies show being in an unhappy relationship (or a series of mediocre relationships) can contribute to various health issues, both mental and physical.

It can increase your chances of becoming ill by 35%. Negative relationships cause greater physical wear and tear on the body. *

Interestingly enough, men and women have evolved countless adaptations to attract a mate, but a happy, enduring relationship rarely happens by accident.

The picture is not a very pretty one, but humans are not designed by natural selection to coexist in mating bliss. They were designed for individual survival and genetic reproduction. The psychological mechanisms fashioned by these ruthless evolutionary criteria are sometimes selfish. **  

That’s why we need to take a cognitive leap and use our intelligence to make better choices in love. As you can see, nature doesn’t always do the job for us - sometimes, it takes effort to unlearn certain patterns. If you want a quality relationship, intention makes a difference. And as I always say, the best time to work on a relationship is before it begins.

Don’t trust every self-proclaimed dating expert on social media promising “instant transformation” or winning tips "to make him/her fall for you". Real change takes time and consistent effort.

If you ever want a different outcome,  tweaking your behaviour won’t get you far. It starts with your mindset: change your attitude first, and your actions will follow.

That’s exactly why I do this work: to help singles find lasting love through a structured, step-by-step approach. While every journey is personalised, it typically follows this path:

• Assess relationship readiness

• Resolve past baggage and break unhealthy patterns

• Boost confidence and dismantle self‑sabotaging beliefs

• Identify core values and non‑negotiables in a partner

• Debunk relationship myths and false expectations

• Design a practical dating strategy: where and how to meet compatible people

• Nurture the new relationship and navigate early‑stage challenges

…and much more.

Contrary to popular opinion, it’s not just women who benefit from relationship and dating coaching.

Women may dominate the headlines: they attend workshops, retreats and events to get all the benefits of dating coaching and find their ideal partner. It’s perfectly natural for women to seek connection and support.

One of the most persistent myths is that in heterosexual relationships, women are usually chasing, and men are resisting commitment. That’s not entirely true. Both men and women value freedom, although it means different things to them. Men also want connection, emotional safety, and meaningful partnerships, same as women.

The main difference is that men are less likely to talk about it and more likely to seek support privately, one-on-one. Science has long established that some gender differences are either built into brain architecture by fetal hormones as the brain develops in the womb, or by floods of hormones across one's life. This leads to variations in behaviour and communication styles.

Because men and women are regarding the landscape from contrasting vantage points, the same scene can appear very different to them, and they often have opposite interpretations of the same action. ***

So, sometimes, same event can be interpreted as an expression of human connection or as a reminder of weakness. Metamessage (underlying meaning or subtext) of help for men is typically: “They are more competent than me”.

That’s why men don’t always want to be seen asking for help - it can feel like admitting weakness, even when it’s actually a sign of strength.

When men do open up, it becomes clear: they have just as many questions, misconceptions, and unspoken fears about relationships. In fact, I currently have more male clients than female, believe it or not.

They’ve decided to invest in their future happiness.

They’ve realised that getting professional help isn’t embarrassing.

They’re not the weak ones - they’re the wise ones.

No one trains for a marathon alone, even though, technically, everyone is capable of running. Relationships are no different. If anything, relationships deserve even more attention considering the impact they have on our lives (and sometimes, our children’s lives).

Ready to invest in your future happiness?

Stop guessing and stumbling in the dark.  Start dating with confidence. Book a free discovery call or contact me today to see how personalised relationship and dating coaching can help you build the love life you’ve always wanted.

Oh, and it really does not cost as much as $10,000!

Let’s take the first step - together.

With best wishes,

Mila Smith

Founder, "From Single to Couple" Relationship & Dating Consultancy

* Dr Terri Orbuch, Finding Love again 

** David M. Buss, The Evolution of Desire

*** Deborah Tannen, You Just Don’t Understand